Virtually every adult went through a break up at least once during his/her lifetime and subsequently was just trying to cope with it. But what if you are not one of those people who likes to play the victim? You want to know how to get your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back and are ready to work hard to make this happen. This is a good, reasonable choice. In fact, about 9 times out of 10, the full impact of any break up can be reversed, if you know the steps you need to take to get your former lover back. This is what we’re going to discuss here. But before you read my advice, I strongly recommend you download the book “Pull Your Ex Back“. The method of getting back your former lover, represented in it, is very effective. In the meantime, here are a few tips.
The first step you should take is determine why exactly there was a break up. Even though you cannot go back and change what was the reason for the break up, you can learn from the mistakes and try to grow from them.
Perhaps the break up occurred because of a specific event or even because of the conduct, which your ex didn’t want to have anything to do anymore. No matter what was the cause of the break up, you need to understand what it was, so you’ll know how to deal with the situation in the future. If you follow the plan, described in general terms below, you’ll be able to get your former lover back. But you want to make sure this doesn’t happen again, right? So this is only the first step.
The next step is also quite simple. You can’t show that you cannot live without him. Despite the fact that almost everyone experiences the urge to tell their ex that they can’t live without them, there’s no point in such messages. Instead, try to radiate strength, let your ex-love see that you are well without him, show everyone around that you are confident and happy, no matter what. If you look needy or desperate, you’ll only alienate your ex further, so try to keep your confidence up to get him to come crawling back to you.
This is one of the major steps that you can take. In fact, you only have to know what to say exactly and how to say it. Only this one little technique can make your former lover think that he made a mistake. This is a very strong move. Don’t attempt to play on the feelings of jealousy of your ex, it’s the worst thing you can do if you, in fact, want to get him back. All you should do is show him that you’re going your own way, and that he should do the same. Instead, you want him to think that he was the best in your life and that no one can compete with what he was going to offer you. Boost his confidence instead of being needy, and he will soon realize that the two of you were great together, despite the minor differences or friction. Also, don’t worry too much if he’s going out with someone else, because in any case you won’t be able to prevent it.